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Kelly's avatar

No pressure or anything, but this makes me so excited to read more writing like this from you re: the book you're working on at the moment - I just love the way you write when you write like this, in a vignette-like way, as you mentioned.

Sharing a moment / memory / thought, posing questions stemming from it, grafting a current thought about it onto the side until the original sentence has totally morphed into something new, but still with that kernel as the origin, and always the aura created is sort of mysterious - as if you know barely more than we, as readers, do, even though it's your life? I'm so sorry for rambling, and barely making sense here - I just appreciate and get a lot from this sort of writing about life and memory because it's exactly how I recall my own life, or what happens when I try to write about it. In vignettes that I doubt the reality of, in a way, that I almost have to ask someone else about. In saying one thing, you're able to almost immediately come up with a way in which your memory of it is wrong, or five other ways of possibly looking at it.

I can only imagine that the writing project you're in the process of is incredibly intense - a mix of moments of joy and remembrance, but a lot of heaviness, too. Forcing yourself to step into moments you'd hoped/planned never to revisit. I hope you can feel the support of this community (COMMUNITY) you've created with an encouraging, comforting hand on your shoulder in those moments. Thanks, as always, for your generosity and vulnerability in what you share, and how you share these snapshots of your life

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Kristyn's avatar

The bittersweetness of memories are something else! As I have gotten older, it has been hard to remember a lot including those memories that I have blocked out. The process of revisiting the past can be overwhelming but also enlightening. I am looking forward to reading what you rediscover when your memoir is released! I really appreciated your thoughts on what it would be like to be born somewhere else. When you write...."all its possibilities, its potential stories, its shifted perspectives. U.S. schooling teaches us our nation’s great exceptionalism; U.S. media shows the rest of the world as a starving, war-torn place—or at least it did when I was a kid. To grow up is to either learn that the U.S. is often the one creating or enabling the conditions of starvation and war, or to burrow ever more deeply into the exceptionalism fantasy"....This part as well as the rest of that paragraph is so important and I want to thank you for writing it. There's so much to reflect on whether you're an American or an immigrant like myself. I have so many thoughts about it....something I wish people in my circle would be more open to discussing. History taught in different countries is something I often wonder about because I know what I was taught and I am constantly trying to learn and understand. Finding out which parts were embellished or left out is part of getting to the truth.....just like our own memories.

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