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Alicia, the point and sentiment and thinking and writing in this piece resonated in general, of course, but if it's okay I'd love to comment on one particular part because it's something I've been considering and toying with and figuring out my feelings on a lot the past couple of years - the discourse around using the internet or choosing to bow out of using the internet, and that there's a certain admiration of those who announce that they aren't online etc.

You wrote: "I think it’s important to be endlessly aware and self-critical when scrolling takes up inevitable time in our lives—time that is well spent if we are using it well: to understand other people and culture better, to understand our tastes and desires, to just have a laugh or relate to someone."

This is a very important and true note, and I'm glad to see you say it. It feels like there's a narrative these days that using the internet is this embarrassing or shameful thing, and that we're all going to pass away mindlessly scrolling some bullshit. It isn't shameful to scroll. It isn't shameful to become addicted to an addictive thing. But, when we have the wherewithall, the awareness, the strength etc, we can choose to manipulate that addiction (and it's an addiction that is maybe inevitable for many in a world where technology moved faster than the human brain has the ability to comprehend and we were in it before we understood it) and use it in a way that suits us. Rather than try to avoid maybe being in unhealthy situations, it's kind of more realistic, more of what living entails, to get into them, to learn from them, and how to best manage them. We have the privilege of choice and discipline around how we use the internet - it isn't this thing that we should be afraid of or behave as if it's in charge of us. And when we can figure out how to do that, the internet can be used in an important and joyful way.

Sorry for being on a tangent that's only slightly about what you wrote. It's just so boring when people are so black and white about the internet; this narrative that it's irredeemably negative and we were better off when we didn't have it and we should all go on a bike ride instead of be on the internet. The internet is a reality of current life, and we can absolutely choose not to engage with it if that suits us better, but there's no denying the loss that comes with that choice, just like every choice. Because, as you said so well, if we're using it well, the internet enriches our lives, our brains, our souls. I would never have come across your newsletter, other writers, favourite music and films and TV shows without it - and, yes, maybe I would have been fine because I wouldn't have known any better - but I'm glad I came across all of those things.

Managing time and attention in a way that suits what we want and need from life is a better way to live than just disregard everything offhand - it shows a lack of curiosity about the world, about culture, about each other to be so proud of yourself for hating the internet and not giving a shit about what goes on there because you're so happy out offline. (And, I am happier offline in many ways, so I get it!). But, I'm also unhappier in many ways when I don't have access to certain things that the internet provides - and, so, it's a case of figuring out how to engage with something that you love and need and appreciate but that is bad for you in some ways. Like with most things, this is just the deal of being alive - figuring out how to make the mess and chaos suit you.

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Millicent Souris's avatar

You had me at 1994 Baffler. Looking forward to reading this at least 3 more times.

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