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MazPol's avatar

I had similar struggles before getting engaged, but absolutely loved being engaged. It was just about us committing in a way that was wonderful. And for me the emotional commitment of getting engaged was much bigger than the legal commitment of marriage and the world viewing our partnership differently. It was also one of the more selfish parts (for me and my partner together) in the whole wedding process. The wedding turned about to be about so much more expectation, opinions, people, and battling an overwhelming capitalist machine. Trying to say, I hope you are also enjoying this moment.

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Elisabeth's avatar

Loved this piece, thank you for sharing! Gonna be mulling this one for a while, especially the phrase "women whose choice to get married in the past I have understood as a capitulation." I didn't realize until it was put to words that that was sort of my lens too, and seeing it laid bare like that gives me a lot to reevaluate.

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