Our family's story has a lot of parallels to your story, including the loss of equilibrium for the siblings who remain. The birth and death dates are reversed, but the feeling of overwhelm at these points on the calendar is the same. I haven't sent myself to the ER yet, but did take a chunk out of my thumb with a microplane today. I'm thankful for people like you and the writers of The Bear for capturing the feelings of the aftermath and those flickers of grief.
Saved this for when I was done with the show and also a little closer to the death anniversary I've been coping with since 2015. Grateful for these words you found to put to grief. I won't understand the loss of a brother, ever, but you hit a universal here in the aching of loss more broadly. Sending love. <3
Coming on 20 years in September. His birthday on the 13th, the other date -- 28th. I'm also deep in the weeds of writing it, so, sigh. I can tell you it doesn't get better, but it does get easier somehow. Which is also awful.
This is really lovely writing Alicia. And between Chicago, my lost home city, and the brother loss, I think it's going to be a long time for me before I can watch the Bear.
Our family's story has a lot of parallels to your story, including the loss of equilibrium for the siblings who remain. The birth and death dates are reversed, but the feeling of overwhelm at these points on the calendar is the same. I haven't sent myself to the ER yet, but did take a chunk out of my thumb with a microplane today. I'm thankful for people like you and the writers of The Bear for capturing the feelings of the aftermath and those flickers of grief.
Saved this for when I was done with the show and also a little closer to the death anniversary I've been coping with since 2015. Grateful for these words you found to put to grief. I won't understand the loss of a brother, ever, but you hit a universal here in the aching of loss more broadly. Sending love. <3
Coming on 20 years in September. His birthday on the 13th, the other date -- 28th. I'm also deep in the weeds of writing it, so, sigh. I can tell you it doesn't get better, but it does get easier somehow. Which is also awful.
This is really lovely writing Alicia. And between Chicago, my lost home city, and the brother loss, I think it's going to be a long time for me before I can watch the Bear.
Thank you for sharing this, Cousin. and bringing me to watch The Bear. Un fuerte abrazo… Vivian Valera-Cebollero
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This was heartfelt, painful, honest and a good reminder that grief needs to be given room. Thank you for that and for sharing yourself this way.